When was the last time you took yourself out on a date?

[Margeaux_H]

I'm talking about a day or evening that you have planned for yourself, out of the house, which may include dinner or lunch alone in a restaurant (which I know can be hard for some) a movie, maybe drinks at the bar, or anything that feels fun for you.  This past Sunday was the first time in a while that I took myself on a date.  I spent the morning shopping, took myself to brunch, had great conversation with the girls at the table next to me.  Then I took myself to a movie had a few drinks and apps at the bar and chatted a bit with some people from out of town. While I am typically a very social person there is something about going out alone, enjoying a nice meal by myself, maybe meeting new people at the bar and simply reconnecting to the person I was before I got married and had so many responsibilities that feels refreshing. I remember a time when I would not be comfortable at all spending time alone and always needed to be surrounded by others.  This was a great reminder of how far I have come and how learning to enjoy your own company is a form of self love.  How about you?  Do you date yourself?  What does your date night look like?

[Sarah_E]

right  now! I’m enjoying a quiet breakfast by myself before errands! Cheers ☕️☕️

[Margeaux_H]

Are you out of the house?  Or are you having breakfast at home?  I am wondering when was the last time you planned a day out just for you?  

[Sarah_E]

welllllll I wouldn't say it was a full day per say 😉 I went to Starbucks after dropping the toddler at day care and rather than rushing around the market with it, sat and enjoyed my sandwich and latte. I'm also much more of a homebody, so the time I do get to myself I spend at home and in bed 😉 but it's getting rarer and rarer and will only become rarer when baby #2 comes in few months!

[Candee]

It’s been a while.

[Candee]

What would you like to share...

[Valerie_C]

My dream self date: A cup of tea and a good book in a cozy chair by the fireplace. It doesn’t happen often but I had this moment last Saturday at a spa.

[Sarah_E]

ooh this is heaven! 

[surfingob]

This is one of my favorite things to do when traveling solo! So relaxing to have good food (that I didn't have to make) and a great book. 

[asparling1986]

Just booked a first date...for myself! Love this and so excited by the idea. 

[Karen_C]

I love this!!  I'm one that will go anywhere and everywhere alone.  Lunch, the movies, brunch.  It's okay to be alone and enjoy your own company.  Collect your thoughts. Take a break from life's stress and just breathe. 

[CourtneyM932]

I'm taking myself to see "The Woman King" and out to breakfast tomorrow!

[balance4me]

This is my dream self date! movies are favorite form of alone time 🙂

[Margeaux_H]

Yes love a good movie or Netflix binge.  It always seems like a splurge tojust unplug and get lost in something.

[Margeaux_H]

How was your date?  How was The Woman King...it's on my list of must see's in the theatre so i can support black films.

[DebMarPir]

This is a great idea. I have a lot of trouble taking a day off, because I have been a caregiver for a decade, and moved during the process, so friends are not nearby. 😞 Also, money is tight, and I live in a really rural area. I don't even have a social life! I feel like I have to take a vacation to do this or drive an hour away... and I am due for a knee replacement (my first) in a month. This is the time to do it, before that kicks in lol.

[Laurenida]

I know this is an older post, Margeaux but I had just had to respond and get the conversation going again. I've been reflecting on what is important to me and how to prioritize my time recently. I think about the value in planning and prioritizing refuel moments so I can show up my best self at work and in my at home life. Dating myself is my favorite thing to do. Taking myself to dinner and sitting at the bar of a restaurant is one of my favorite self-love activities. Thank you for sharing this!

[Margeaux_H]

Thanks for reigniting the conversation.  I must admit I am a bar fly as well :). So many great conversations happen there when you are all alone.  Even though I am married and can always have a dinner date :), I love taking time just for me and think it is so important to learn to enjoy your own company.

[Jojo3]

@Margeaux_H - I just had a date today!!  I had a hair appointment, then I went to Trader Joe's, read ingredients and looked at Everything in the store, then hit the Drive-thru at  Mc Donalds for a sweet tea and drove home.  (Trader Joe's is an hour from my house).  It was fun and relaxing!!

[Margeaux_H]

Sounds like a perfect date!