Yesterday a client expressed to me the ebbs and flows of her relationship and said "I spun out of control because I felt like I couldn't control it."
At any given moment we are driven to have control over the chaos. There's one thing we will never have control over: how other people manage their emotional well-being. This includes yours. If you continue to remind yourself of this, zoom out, think objectively, it might help you manage your relationships, your energy, your peace. Everyone is on their own learning curve. Don't take things personal. Focus on you.
"In order to control myself, I must first accept myself by going with and not against my nature." - Bruce Lee