My girls are in their 20s, with the oldest turning 25 next year. They're working adult jobs, dating, traveling etc. I'm trying to build an adult connection with them rather than looking at them as kids so they feel empowered and independent. Any advice on how to transform the the relationship and make it stronger?
I am navigating this transition as well, so found the replies to your post helpful/informative - thank you all!
My children are now 22 and 19. As part of my transition to this new phase, I have been making an effort to send quick texts or photos here/there to let them know I’m thinking of them. And when we talk I really try (and it takes effort for me) to pose open ended questions and then just pause and really listen to their responses. I’m also working on getting out of ‘problem solver mode’ unless they specifically ask for my advice/engagement that way. I have also started outright asking - especially my younger one who is away at college - what type of support they want/need from me. These feel like big shifts to me, but I think are being well received. I suppose time (and practice) will tell!